Most people would love to feel more delight, more connection. But where is it?
It’s hard to find the time to do things we enjoy, there are bills to pay, work, kids, commitments. It can feel like you never quite get caught up enough to tune into the wonder of life. Or to take care of the blocks and fears that may get in the way of experiencing life the way you want to.
For a long time, I lived a waiting game. I knew I would be able to enjoy life when I was slender and in perfect shape, my house was clean, and all my bills were paid. When I didn’t feel so rushed and out of sorts. When I fell in love. My life was far from miserable, but I wasn’t really being in the moment because I was so focused on that future time when everything would fall in place and I would LIKE my life.
There are still days when I get caught up in my to-do list. When I don’t have time to catch my breath. But I’ve been allowing more joy in my life, finding myself more present and really, much happier!
How? I learned about tapping and I started releasing some unhelpful decisions I made years ago. Like the one that said I could be happy when I was perfect. And the one that said enjoying activities took too much time.
If you would like to be more present, and enjoy even routine tasks (it makes them fun and lots easier!), let’s do some tapping!
Karate chop: Even though I’ve been too busy to enjoy what I’m doing, I’m open to being more present and noticing the small joys in life.
Even though life doesn’t seem very joyful, and I feel disappointed and cheated, what if enjoyment is all around me?
Even though I decided I had to earn my enjoyment by getting things done, what if joy is all around, just like air and sunshine, and I just need to tune in?
Top of the Head: Where is my enjoyment?!
Eyebrow: I’ve been working so hard to be worthy.
Side of the Eye: And I’m tired!
Under the Eye: I never get what I want.
Under the Nose: When is it my turn?
Chin: When do I get to feel good?
Collarbone: Do I deserve it?
Under the Arm: What do I need to do?
Top of the Head: Maybe I don’t need to do anything…
Eyebrow: Except allow it?
Side of the Eye: That would be too easy.
Under the Eye: And really hard!
Under the Nose: I haven’t practiced that.
Chin: Can I let it in?
Collarbone: What if I can?
Under the Arm: What if I don’t have to wait?
Top of the Head: What if I could notice my breathing,
Eyebrow: and enjoy the feeling of air moving in and out of my body?
Side of the Eye: Could I find delight in washing a dish,
Under the Eye: with warm soapy water?
Under the Nose: Notice my capable hands taking care of this for me?
Chin: It needs to be done anyway.
Collarbone: Why can’t I enjoy it?
Under the Arm: What if I can start feeling joy now?
Take a deep breath, and notice what you’re feeling. If you feel tension or fear in any part of your body, you may have just found a block to joy. Congratulations! I know blocks aren’t fun, but until we know they’re there, it’s hard to release them!
You may find it helpful to write down the sensation, and any emotions or beliefs that are associated with it (Just ask yourself, what is this feeling about, and listen for an answer), so you can tap on it. Or tap with this again to bring up those feelings when you have time to spend a few more minutes helping yourself.
I don’t know about you, but when I enjoy what I’m doing, I have more energy, I’m more creative, and I feel free.